Clarity and Beliefs

Ever had your eyes tested at the optometrist? You sit there, staring at the blurry letters on the wall, while they flip through different lenses. "Better one, or two?" they ask, over and over. And sometimes, the difference is obvious. Other times, both options suck, and you have to guess. That’s kind of what sorting through beliefs feels like.

Except in life, we don’t just have one or two lenses between us and reality. We have dozens. Maybe hundreds. Some are clear, some are foggy, and some distort things so badly that we don’t even realize we’re looking at a warped version of the world. And unlike an optometrist, life doesn’t hand us a nice, controlled environment to test one lens at a time. We stack them up, mix them together, and then wonder why everything feels overwhelming and confusing.

The wrong prescription in glasses can give you migraines. The wrong mix of beliefs? That’ll mess you up in ways you don’t even see coming. Racing thoughts, anxiety, depression. Feeling stuck. Struggling to connect with people, or worse—assuming you already know how they’ll treat you before they even get the chance.

You ever have a bad day, go to a restaurant, and your server takes a little too long to bring your food? And suddenly, you’re thinking, "Wow, food workers are so rude. They don’t care at all." That one passing thought? If you’re not careful, it sticks. The next time a server is slow, it confirms what you already ‘knew.’ And after a while, it’s not just a thought—it’s a belief. A lens. Now, every time you walk into a restaurant, you’ve already decided how the experience will go. And people can feel that energy. If you expect bad service, you carry yourself in a way that practically guarantees you’ll get it. A self-fulfilling prophecy.

That’s the thing about beliefs. They don’t just shape how we see the world—they shape how we interact with it. And the more lenses we stack, the more distorted things become. But when we start pulling them off, one by one, we see things more clearly. We see people for who they actually are, not who we assumed them to be. We respond in the moment instead of filtering everything through an old story. We stop trying to shove people and experiences into categories that don’t fit.

But here’s the hard part: taking off one lens often reveals another. You think you’ve got it figured out, only to realize there’s another layer messing with your perception. Sometimes, stripping away old beliefs creates a sort of internal war—a dark night of the soul. I’ve been there. And let me tell you, it’s disorienting on a good day.

When I went through my first one (because yeah, it can happen more than once), I thought I was losing my mind. I started feeling other people’s emotions, and I mean feeling them. At first, I thought it was all in my head. That I was making it up. So, I did what any ‘rational’ person would do—I looked for professional help. Because surely, feeling other people’s emotions wasn’t real, right?

But life has a funny way of leading you where you need to go. I found my way to a group of people who understood exactly what I was going through. And the most beautiful part? They didn’t try to tell me what to believe. They just asked questions. Shared their own experiences. Offered support. And most importantly, they let me figure it out for myself. Because that’s the thing—nobody can do the work for you. People can guide you, challenge you, ask the right questions, be willing to hold space and listen, but at the end of the day? You’re the one who has to decide what to believe. Who to be. And when you start making those choices consciously, instead of just running on autopilot? That’s when everything shifts.

The goal isn’t to replace one set of rigid beliefs with another. It’s to minimize the number of lenses between you and reality. To trust yourself. To know that you don’t need a pre-written rulebook for every situation because you’ll be able to handle whatever comes. To see the world—and yourself—with clarity.

And yeah, it’s messy. It’s uncomfortable. It’ll probably break you down a few times. But on the other side of all that? Is freedom. Real, unshakable freedom.

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